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Aug 3


New Haven was recently named America’s #1 Foodie City by We can’t exactly argue. We do love our food!

Check out this list of some of New Haven’s top bites. What’s your favorite? Did we miss anything?



in a healthy, close relationship of any kind, when something upsets you, you need to bring it up. as soon as possible, even. cultivate an environment in which you both can talk about things that upset you, with the utmost attention to everyone’s feelings. it’s a really simple thing to do but it’s a thing i’ve been working on for a while and i’m getting actual nice things happening as a result

This is so important.  If someone does something that upsets you, the sooner it’s brought up, the easier and quicker a resolution is.  Imagine the difference if you are in a relationship and your loved one says to you “Hey, that thing you said just now really hurt my feelings” as opposed to “Hey, that thing you said three weeks ago really hurt my feelings.”  In the second situation you’d wonder “Why didn’t you bring it up then?” or potentially not even remember the incident being brought up.  Using “I” statements and naming real feelings is also important, for example, phrasing these incidences in the format: “When you did/said [thing], I felt [emotion].  That way the emotion is tied to the action in a way that is indisputable and puts importance on how you felt rather than what the other person’s intention was. 

A big part of emotional literacy is being able to name thoughts and feelings in the moment and confront the source of your discomfort or emotions right away, which lowers the potential for resentment, residual anger, and lasting harm that degrades any relationship.  It also encourages more positive feedback, such as naming to your partner when you feel appreciated, loved, close, and protected.




if ur not boycotting urban outfitters after this i dont want to talk to youimage

if you’ve ever not been boycotting urban outfitters i don’t want to talk to you

i mean it’s sold racist games and costumes in the past, a transphobic card (warning for slurs), stolen from artists, and appropriated countless cultures and now this

urban outfitters is disgusting tbh 

Don’t forget that Urban Outfitter’s president also gave over $13,000 to Rick Santorum!!

What Happened to Canada?





This is a good piece that sums up what I try to tell American friends on a regular basis. Especially when it comes to this:

If there is a battle over the future of Canada, its frontline is the issue of resource extraction. This is where the most frightening stories are emerging and the most dynamic forms of resistance as well. 

Welcome to my world. It’s pretty insane to watch it all unfold.

A thing you should all read.


Just in case some of you were interested in the downward spiral of my suddenly-terrible country.


That’s not a tear in my eye.  It’s a land of myth and a time of magic.

(Source: foxtrotmulder)


What if the Pokémon center just sends your Pokémon’s medical bills home to your mom and your mom just doesn’t tell you about them because she doesn’t want to burden her 10-15 year old child with the harsh realities of the world of Westernized medical care


im aiming for the “shes a badass and cute as hell but I wouldn’t touch her without asking” look

(Source: reifaun)

Comic about slurs, published in the Galago magazine last summer. 

(Source: superqueerartsyblog)



Today I learned that the Curiosity sang itself ‘Happy Birthday’ on its year anniversary of being on Mars.

All alone.

Hundreds of thousands of miles from anyone or anything.

Guys I am depressed over robots now.



Bullied Biracial Girl Changes Name From ‘Keisha’ to ‘Kylie’ - COLORLINES



Picture of the biracial girl with her white mother

[Picture of Kylie with her mother]


The Kansas City Star has the sad story of a 19-year-old woman who’s gotten a long-awaited — and unusual — early Christmas gift from her white mother: a name change.

The woman, formerly known as Keisha Austin, said that she faced bigoted bullying from classmates and teachers because of her name, which people associated with “video vixens, neck-rolling and Maury Povich tabloid fodder.” In short, having a recognizably “black” girl’s name would up being an emotional and social hazard.  ”In our society, names like Abdul and Muhammad get flagged for security checks,” noted the writer, Jenee Osterheldt. “Tran and Jesus get labeled illegal immigrants. Deonte and Laquita? People see baby mamas, criminals and affirmative action hires. Billy Bob and Sue? Hillbillies and trailer parks.”

For years, Keisha begged her mother to change her name.

“It’s not something I take lightly,” she told the paper, crying. “I put a lot of thought into it. I don’t believe you should just change your name or your face or anything like that on a whim. I didn’t want to change my name because I didn’t like it. I wanted to change my name because it didn’t feel comfortable. I don’t connect to it. I didn’t feel like myself, but I never want any girls named Keisha, or any name like that, to feel hurt or sad by it.”

Her mom, Christy, finally decided to give her daughter what she wanted and paid $175 to make the name change from “Keisha” to “Kylie” official. But she did it with a heavy heart.
“It felt like a gift I gave to her, and she was returning it,” Cristy says. “Keisha was the only name I ever thought of, and when I talked to her in my belly, I talked to Keisha. But she’s still the same person, regardless of her name. But her happiness is what is most important to me. I love and support her, and whatever she has to do to feel good on the inside, I have to be OK with that.”
Absolutely heartbreaking and so emblematic of how white supremacy systematically destroys the lives, confidence and dignity of POC. We can’t even have our own birth-given names and wear those with pride. My heart breaks for this young girl, and this is a pain that many POC can relate to across racial lines. 

(Source: owning-my-truth)