just so we’re clear:
- getting called out for doing something shitty is not the same as “getting hate”
- if someone is telling you that you did something shitty, they are not criticizing you as a person
- messing up does not make you an irredeemably awful human being
- but how you respond to criticism can be a pretty good indicator of your awfulness
I think it’s really important to note that if I take the time to call you out rather than just dismissing you as a piece of shit it means that I am giving you a chance to be a better person. You should take that chance instead of hurling abuse at me, or bursting into tears.